Begin Human and Angry Yet Letting Go comes from a moment where I was reflecting on how one can deal with anger with respect to self and to another.
Is it true that we are spiritual beings having human experience?
Over the last couple thousands of years, that’s true. However, things are changing.
We are starting to learn to live our lives from a point of integration between who we are spiritually and who we are physically.
The belief has been that the deepest parts of who we are spiritually can only be gotten to when we no longer hold a physical body. That’s what is sometimes referred to with the ideas of enlightenment and nirvana.
Earth is shifting and human beings are shifting. One of the biggest changes that is happening is that we are beginning to learn to have the highest level spiritual experience in this physical body.
Which is in part why the Akashic Records have become much more known and much more accessible than they ever have been Learning how to work in the Akashic Records at the deepest levels is helping people learn how to find that integrated experience.
We become human beings because here in Physical Reality is where it all happens. This is where we learn. This is where we grow. This is where we have experience that we can’t have if we’re just potential or just spiritual. We have to take form in order to have experience.
What can I do with my angry emotions towards others?
First, I think it’s important that you’re being honest with yourself about your emotions. If you’re having an experience with someone and it’s making you angry, it doesn’t do you any good to say you’re not angry.
If you are having an experience of anger towards someone, the question is: why are you angry?
From the answer comes your truth and the understanding about what to do to let go of whatever the anger is about. Usually it’s not good to hang on to anger. For most people, the problem with anger is the impulse to ignore it or deny it.
Is it okay to be angry at somebody? Anger is about how emotion is expressing through you. It’s about how you’re going to learn something about yourself. The thing you don’t want to do with anger is turn it into blame or direct it towards someone including yourself.
Usually if you’re angry, it’s because of something within you. That other person may be doing something that’s not very nice, and it’s making you angry. But them not being nice and you being angry are two different things. One is how they’re behaving and the other is about how you’re reacting.
Sometimes people do crappy things, right? That makes you angry, as it should, right? It’s then how you choose to act from that.
For example, saying to the other person, “You’re not good because you make me angry.” That’s not helpful to either one of you. But saying to the other person, “Wow, there is something here that’s really making me angry.” Now you’ve owned your emotion, and you’ve opened the door to figuring out perhaps with this person what is going on for you. Sometimes all you got to do is just say, “You know what? That really makes me angry.” The self-acknowledgement is all you needed.
Your emotions are your emotions. Whatever the emotion is, you have a choice about how you respond. With anger we try to avoid it is because usually the way that we respond is so horrifying. We yell, we scream. Some think that the yelling and screaming is getting rid of the anger. But it can make it worse because we can get lost in the expression which is becoming more an attack than an inner release. Most helpful is to become aware of your anger before you react. Though many strong emotions happen before you even realize.
With learning to be aware, you can create a gap. In that gap, you have enough time to stop yourself. You’re not reacting. You’re not yelling and screaming. You can take a breath and ask, “Okay, how do I want to handle this? What’s going on? Why am I angry? What’s being kicked up? What is it that I want to say or do? Is that really going to be helpful?” You give yourself opportunity to assess, which is difficult when you’re angry and caught in reaction.
Bottomline: you do what you can in each moment. Sometimes you’re going to do something that you’re embarrassed about. You’re not ever going to be perfect. This isn’t about perfection. What you are trying to get to is awareness, as much as you possibly can in the moment. With awareness it’s possible to make a choice rather than react. When you react in a way that feels bad, then what you do is take care of the consequences of your behavior. How you take care of the consequences of your actions is where integrity shows up. Sometimes awareness doesn’t happen until after those bad words have come out of your mouth and now it’s time to be honest and deal with the consequences.
In the process of human life, we go through a lot of emotions and a lot of pain. In spiritual practice, how can we learn to let go?
Let’s look at letting go. The process of letting go is about being very clear what truth is for you in the moment. A lot of what you let go are things that were truth yesterday or helped you yesterday. Today you’re a different person. You’re looking at your life in a way that’s different than the way you looked at it yesterday because of what you bring in to today from yesterday’s experiences.
Yesterday’s truth becomes the foundation for today’s life. Yesterday is experience from which you learn and grow. In the process, you come to an understanding of what truth is for you in yesterday’s moment.
Today you have everything from yesterday, and you’re having all of today’s experiences. That means that some of what you learned yesterday may not apply today. You need to let it go. It’s keeping you from growing and understanding a deeper part of your truth. Every day you’re having experience, and you’re learning, and you’re growing. That means that somewhere in that, you’ve got to let go of something.
Thinking truth never changes will get in your way to understanding today’s truth. That’s the hard part about truth. A lot of people want to think about truth as something that’s never changing. To some degree, there are aspects of truth that aren’t changing. It’s how you look at it, how you experience it, what you learn from it. It’s always shifting.
Love as truth is unchanging. How you experience love, how you understand love, how you understand the truth of love, that changes.
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