Control. Not a new topic for most of us. Nope!
The urge to control is strong and comes from fear, feeling uncomfortable, and a lack of trust – just to name a few.
Control is an illusion. Control is an attempt to make the future be just as you would like, avoiding any unpleasantness.
Control is born from the past and wants to make sure that the past and the future are different.
Often when control steps in, the urge is to move into a place where you know all you need to know so that you feel some assurance in picking the future.
Stepping away from learning is one of the detriments of the push to control. When you aren’t learning, you are usually wrapped up in control.
Notice this question begins with “How can I learn.” This question is a step back from control, step away from illusion, and a motion in a better direction.
When you allow yourself to begin to learn, you open yourself to new possibility.
Looking at the flow of your life in a different way, opens you to new opportunity. In the newness are the seeds which will help you let go of control as an automatic knee-jerk reaction to your life.
To let go of control, first learn. Learn about yourself, about the people around your, about options in your life that you haven’t yet seen because of the shadow of control.
Learning banishes shadows and opens doors. A place to begin. A place to ask:
What can I learn about letting go of control?
The wise person asks questions.
My father has said this to me since I was young child just learning to read.
When you ask a question, you are giving yourself the opportunity to learn.
Learning is life. Learn always. Open to learn.
How? Simple: ask questions!
Use the question to learn.
Ask. Tune in. Follow flow. Ponder and reflect.
The Weekly Question offers you a chance to step back and learn about yourself. For example, you may use the question as part of a meditation practice or while taking a mindful walk. Cheryl highly recommends reflection. Reflection is a method of focused thought and is a great way to work with any question. Here’s an article describing the Three Steps of Reflection.