When Men Are Pigs

When Men Are Pigs

When men are pigs, what choice do women have? There are many choices including oinking back. For me, I know that often my choice has been to let go of myself so that I can keep some semblance of a man/pig in my life and doing so without acknowledging or confronting the lousy choice I just made for me.

Because when a man is a pig and I feel desperate for companionship no matter the cost, then I let go of that place within that knows better than to put up with that pile of malarkey being offered as relationship.

Again, I know for myself that this choice of self-release happens sometimes even when I am vigilant. And, in an odd way, tied in with it is the urge to be strong, to stand my ground so that sometimes in the strong stance I don?t lose my power. Instead I lose my center and get stuck in my head. And now I am not leading with my heart. And that’s totally understandable because the piggy men in my life have left me with pain and I have vowed with all my might that that callously delivered pain will NOT happen again on my watch for myself. I pull back and huddle up and observe, making sure to shore the defense line and protect my heart, taking it, I think, out of the line of fire.

But if the man across the table is not of the piggy kind then I have cut myself off from the possibility of a real connection and a mature relationship developing beyond the childish limits of piggy mind.

In any moment the choice is formed from this consideration: What do I want? And since it really is my choice, if this guy is not a pig, I don’t need or want barriers to impede. I don’t want or need my heart to disappear. I want the opportunity to let go of past habit and outdated story and I want me to take a chance that I can show up with all of me and it is okay. Not because he will like me that way. But because that’s how I like me — all of me making the choice that I will not let any part, portion, feeling, thought, desire or belief slink off in the delusion that I can’t have what I want.

All right! I’ve got my big girl panties on! And all of me is here. This opportunity, this moment is for me. I am here and this is for me to learn to live from my wholeness and my heart’s authenticity.

By |2018-12-07T16:23:10+00:00June 21st, 2016|Sacred Relationship|Comments Off on When Men Are Pigs

About the Author:

Cheryl Marlene, Spiritual Guide in and beyond the Akashic Records, is the author of several award-winning books on the Akashic Records and the spiritual journey, and offers the most intensive path of learning in the Akashic Records called the Sage Path. With more than 20 years of experience with the Akashic Records, Cheryl offers a profound perspective which elegantly describes the spiritual energy dynamics of the Akashic Records as the soul's spiritual practice. Cheryl works with clients and students around the world and is highly regarded for her clarity, integrity and compassion.